FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Why would I want to meet you?

There are many reasons why you might desire to meet. The first is to see that I am "for real" as well as to determine if you are at all interested or sexually attracted to me as well as if I am sexually attracted to you. I am much more than just a considerate well-versed lover. I also possess intellect with the ability to discuss and communicate with you knowledgeably on most any topic of your choice. Business, financial, market news, local and world news, politics, sports, even the weather. most any topic you desire to discuss.

Are you tested for STD’s and HIV?

I am tested on a regular on going basis. Having professional friends in the healthcare field allows me to obtain testing on a monthly basis or as needed. Never have I tested positive for any STD, and certainly not for HIV. I am tested between each new encounter as well .

 

Should I be tested before you and I meet?

The vast majority or the women that I do in fact rendezvous with are tested prior to getting together. Not only will that provide a base line for your future reference but also provides you with the knowledge that in fact you are "clean". When you schedule your next Pap, simply ask for a full STD as well as an HIV screen. Most physicians/Gyno's won't do the full screen unless asked. It simple, painless and the responsible thing to have done. Physicians/Gyno's are accustom to being asked to do the screening so don't be shy.

 

When is the best time for me to contact you?

Most anytime. I don't go to bed to sleep until 2ish most evenings. I do have voice mail, feel free to leave your name, number and a message as well as the best time to contact you, I shall return your call. My number is 319-329-3306.

I'm so seldom on line other then to work on my home page and check my email a few times each week. Really the best way to contact me is to call me at 319-329-3306.

You may send that to swingpup@aol.com

Certainly we can. One we have rendezvoused, you shall be provided access to call or page me anytime that you desire to set up another rendezvous or just to talk.

How do you know the women you meet with are clean?

There are ways to detect certain conditions without the use of laboratory equipment. As a woman, you should know how also. If you do not, then may I suggest that you speak to your obstetrician during your next visit? This is a question that can better be answered by your health care provider. I simply don’t have the space to cover such major topics within my page. Sorry. Very basically, if you notice an odor, a discharge or feel any abnormal discomfort that’s not common for you at any time particularly during foreplay or intercourse, you might be thinking about visiting your healthcare provider as soon as possible. Your doctor can also show you how to "self examine". It’s simple, painless and a great idea.

What if we meet and you do not find me attractive?

Unless you possess a totally negative attitude and outlook on life, that won’t happen. I may choose not to "indulge" you for reasons other than your appearance.

What are some of the reasons you wouldn’t "indulge" me?

Personal hygiene and cleanliness would be a major reason why I would decline to "get together" with you. Bashing of a husband, boyfriend or significant other is another reason. If I thought you were under the influence of alcohol or illegal drugs. If I felt that you really weren’t emotionally ready, if you were feeling uncomfortable, or if after we become "comfortable" I notice a problem that I touched on in one of the above paragraphs.

I fear rejection. Will you like me?

In my professional occupation I deal with many people from all walks of life. I am outgoing and truly a nice guy. I naturally enjoy talking with everyone. I would have no reason not to like you as a person. I would hope that we were able to develop a friendship as well as being lovers. That, however, would be up to you. If you desire my friendship as well, certainly. That is totally up to you.

Do I have to tell you my real name?

No, our rendezvous can be as discreet as you desire them to be. My only requirement is that if you appear to be 18 to 24, that I do see your driver’s license to verify your age. You can be as open or as discreet as you want to be.

Will you call me?

If you are married or not, I shall not call you unless you advise me that you desire me to call. Never would I call you or visit you without your permission. You are in control of that situation totally.

 

What if I see you in public?

Once again, if you tell me our rendezvous are to be kept absolutely confidential for whatever the reason, I would not even acknowledge you in public if that were your desire.

What if you were ever asked if we had been together?

I know nothing! In my professional occupation, confidentiality is a major factor, just as it is when I rendezvous with someone. No matter who would ask, I would deny knowing you or even meeting with you. Again, I know nothing.

Can I just come out and tell you my sexual desires?

Yes, by all means! I want to know what you desire. I am meeting with you to satisfy your needs, wants, desires and fantasies. It is most anything that you desire. I want to totally fulfill your sexual desires.

How about candles, flowers, etc.?

Most certainly I shall supply the amenities to set the mood. If you are wishing to obtain a gentle, sensual massage, I will have the lotions and powders. Again, you are able to tell me exactly what you desire.

Where can we meet for our first "no obligation" get together?

Anywhere that you choose. I would suggest Perkins, Denny’s even at the Mall or some other public location. Any location where you feel comfortable. If for example you live in Cedar Rapids, we could meet in Iowa City, Waterloo or some other surrounding city. This to protect you per assuring total discretion if you so desire.

 

Can you just "do me" with out all of the crap?

Certainly. That is what's so cool about this. I desire to provide to you total sensual intimately fulfilling sex without all the crap that so oftentimes goes along with the sexual aspect of a lover.

Absolutely you may. When you have had enough simply say so, it's that simple. You may then contact me for another rendezvous when you are ready. No hassles. I want to compliment your sexuality not complicate it.

Where would we go to "get comfortable?"

That is up to you. Once again, a motel or hotel. I do have a large indoor hot tub as well as a fireplace at my residence. You tell me where you would feel the most comfortable. We then would take it from there.

Can I bring along lingerie or toys?

Feel free to bring along anything that you desire. As always, it’s whatever you desire. When we do rendezvous that is when your desires shall be fulfilled. It’s your time to obtain pleasure. Allow yourself to be pampered.

What won’t you do?

I won’t do anal, I won’t do illegal drugs or be in surroundings where illegal drugs are present. I won’t even drink (alcohol that is). If you choose to bring along wine or champagne that is great. I don’t drink; I don’t like the taste of it. Diet Dew is my drink of choice. Further, I won’t do anything that you don’t want done or anything you are not 100% comfortable doing.

How will you treat me afterwards?

I will treat you afterwards as I did prior to our rendezvous, that being with the utmost of respect. I shall always treat you with total respect, always.

What if I try it and don’t want to meet again?

That's fine, not at all a problem. Once again, I would not call or contact you. You may contact me in the future should you desire at a later date to rendezvous.

May I call you?

Sure, you have my cell number. Once we rendezvous I shall provide to you my home phone and pager. If you wanted to call and say "hi" that’s great. As I have indicated, I can be your lover as well as a good friend. It’s all up to you.

Do you charge for "services?"

No! Not at all. Our rendezvous shall be exactly the same if you would meet any other male. The hotel or motel room we can split the cost or I would pick the tab up the first time and you maybe could get it the next time. I know this is a funny question, but I wanted to add it here. I have been asked this in the past.

How much time would we have together?

As much time as you desire. I am extremely flexible. An hour or a full day or night, it’s up to you. Again, our rendezvous is your time, at a time that fits your schedule.

Are you able travel with me?

That depends upon where you’re going as well as what period of time. This also would of course would depend on the situation and my professional scheduling. Let me say that it’s not out of the question.

Am I able to bring along a friend?

Certainly. As many as you would like. We could make a "party" out of our rendezvous. This is your time to have most anything you desire.

I’m 19 years old, does that bother you?

As long as you are 18 years of age or older and able to prove it, your age is not a problem with me. We shall take it at your pace, a pace that you’re comfortable with. I may however ask for your ID if you do in fact look young. ABSOLUTELY NO ONE UNDER 18 YEARS OF AGE!

Does no thanks mean "no thank you?"

Absolutely. If you desire something, simply ask. If you do something that I am not comfortable with I shall tell you "No Thanks." No means no. Stop means stop and "Oh, I like that" means you are being fulfilled. That is exactly what I want to do, fulfill your romantic intimate sensual desires.

Am I able to "give you" to my friend as a gift?

Sure, as long as she is totally aware of the situation and as long as she meets the requirements of age as well as other items that I have outlined within the F.A.Q. ( frequently asked questions) section and the pages. Yes, I would make a great sensual gift. It has happened in the past. Thank you (HA!)

Should I be feeling guilt that I want to meet you?

I don’t believe so. Do you feel guilty when you go to the health club? When you receive a pedicure or when you get your nails done? Do you feel guilty when you take your car into a mechanic? When you call an electrician? Why should you feel guilty? All that you are doing is satisfying your physical desires. If you are attempting to justify a reason not to meet, then you may feel guilty.

Why do you claim to be such a great lover?

I don’t claim to be. This is what I am told by women. Some time ago women began telling me that I should do a page like this. Many of the women that I have rendezvoused with have stated that they are aware of many other women that would enjoy meeting with me. I think of sexuality as art. I am the artist, women the canvas. I truly enjoy providing fulfilling sexual pleasures to women.

 

I have heard of males doing what you are doing in large metro areas, but here in Iowa?

I know what you are saying. Just because we live in Iowa doesn't mean that we are all "hey-seeds". It is certainly possible to enjoy the "metro" lifestyle without traveling to or living in larger cities.

What are you able to provide to me that other men cannot?

Attentiveness. I believe that I am able to provide to you gentle, sensual cuddling, foreplay, conversation, openness and honesty. I do possess great stamina for long sessions of passionate fulfillment. Most anything you desire I shall attempt to quench your particular sexual desires. In addition, I assure total discretion at all times.

My husband or boyfriend won’t do or has no interest in doing what you say you’ll do. Why?

To be honest, I feel it’s because many men are more interested in watching TV, sitting in bars, hunting, fishing or becoming intoxicated, or hanging with their buddies than what they are in providing you with sexual fulfillment. Most males, as time wears on, lose interest in their wife or girlfriend. If you recall the first few times that you made love with a new sexual partner, it was fireworks. For most, as time passes, the passion, romance and the excitement leaves the bedroom. Some men do not feel as though women have equal rights, even in the bedroom. This is one issue I am told by women, they would never discuss with their husband or boyfriends.